Thursday, October 22, 2009
{ 7:10 PM }
So normally I have this rule on not butting in on other people's lovelives, especially my friends', but I figured....once in a while it's fun. :))
This just goes out to my friend and her significant other. So while I'm not exactly Dr. Phil, maybe some of my insanity would rub off on you and turn the world right upside again. Crazy, isn't it? :)) Pax once told me that only insane people deal with the crazy shit that is love. If love makes us insane, then so be it. :D We need some insanity in our lives to go 'round. :)
So basically I'm warning you, my post will be full of references and just cheesy ripoffs of quotes, but they're true nonetheless. :D
Taylor Swift just sums it all up the best-- "This love is difficult, but it's re-eal." So did Chuck Bass-- "In the face of true love, you never give up." When two people enter a relationship, basically they're signing this invisible yet totally valid contract that ensues a lot of insanity, random moodswings and maybe even times that you'll feel like giving up. Yet that contract assures you that you're doing this in the name of love. Just....all those craziness for one word that all the 6pointsomething billion other people in this world have found, are finding, or lost. Cheeeeessyy....right? But basically love gives you the license to be whoever you want to be--insane or borderline freaky.
Love is not only about finding happiness. Though of course, happiness happens to be a good chunk of it....it also entails sacrifice, patience, understanding, and just a lot more that we human beings find in the name of human nature. It takes grown-ups for relationships to work. Though I'm not saying that you need to be in your 20's for this to happen...what's important is that you grow together and learn from your mistakes....like Pax said, it's not the fights that make couples stronger...it's what they learn from it that does.
My point is, in relationships, there will come a certain point that you won't like what you're experiencing, you won't agree on everything and you'll probably even dislike each other....but it's just part of the insanity you signed up for. You didn't sign up for a fairytale....hell, you signed up for a relationship. Which has its ups and downs....but either way, you learn from each other so much more. :)
So if ever you feel like giving up, don't. But then again, it all comes down to you. I won't dictate you on how to manage your relationship.....but
hangga't kayang ayusin, ayusin. Breakups are thoroughly thought through....some take days to ponder, weeks, months even. Breakups are only to be resorted to if you think that you're not getting what you really want in the relationship anymore, and that you're not really happy anymore. Because if you don't make the right decision....you might end up regretting it.
By the end of this post, I'd have learned that you two have already made up. :P Which is good. :) Oh well. But at least somehow I hope some people would have benefitted from this. :P Which just really takes a lot of common sense....but sometimes when in doubt, you tend to lose them. :))
